One shocking discovery about natural hair

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I can not believe I’m writing this ”Baking soda is a no no for my hair”.

A year ago, after I learnt about the toxic ingredients used in most commercial shampoos and their adverse effect on the natural hair. I decided to switch to baking soda. In fact, earlier on, my hair journey motto was ”If you can’t eat it, don’t put it on your hair”.  So for one year I have been washing my hair with baking soda and using apple cider vinegar as a conditioning rinse. 3 weeks ago I decided to try co washing, my hair came out softer and easier to detangle but it didn’t feel new, I didn’t notice any difference using the 2 stuff to wash my hair  but 2 days ago I decided to use my baking soda for a change and that was when I made the discovery, [well not really a discovery] – I poured the mixture of baking soda and water on my hair and felt my hair to massage. The moment my hand touched my hair I knew something had gone wrong – it felt different. It felt dry and coarse and brittle. That was when it struck me this is how my hair comes out every time I use baking soda. I didn’t think it was wrong because i had gotten used to the dryness and squeaky feel  ”clean” hair which I thought was ideal.

It struck me how this applies to every other thing in Life. Consistency doesn’t necessarily make things right. Wrong is wrong no matter how long you’ve been on it, you never know how peaceful and good right would feel until you try it.

By the time i finished washing my hair. My perfectly detangled hair had tangled again. Something i didn’t experience all the times i co- washed my hair.It took a few days and some deep conditioning to get my hair as soft as it felt the first time i co washed.

Lessons learnt:

Baking soda stripped my hair of it’s moisture

It made my washing and detangling sessions a lot difficult

Further lessons:

To maintain your healthy mane you must seek to retain your hair moisture and stay away from hair products that strip the hair. Read, research but most of all listen to your hair.

Please follow the link to learn how to handle wash days and retain your hair moisture  http://www.wikihow.com/Follow-the-Curly-Girl-Method-for-Curly-Hair.

Have you tried washing your hair with baking soda? Please write your experience in the comment box below and thank you for reading.

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Why I did the ”big chop”

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Tons of people have put me on the stand for getting a haircut. While some think it’s a feminist thing, some think I shaved my head because it’s in vogue.

Well, I have wanted to get my relaxed ends off for over a year now and fear and my then-boyfriend’s disapproval stopped me cold in my tracks. I have a petite stature with an oblong face, huge eyes, high forehead and long jaw. I was promised that a low-cut would never look half as good on me. Even my friend, Nkechi disapproved and advised to transition instead of doing a once and for all big chop.

So here is how it happened; I’ve been transitioning a while and I had just washed my head full of hair. I went to my hairdresser to put in a weave and it turned out she wasn’t in town. Thing is, she has been my hairdresser for the past four years and going to another person sounded like dancing at the edge of a cliff. I was in a fix because my undergrowth was thick and I could not put a comb through it (y’all know how it is when combing due hair). An idea occurred to me about facing my fears and daring to do the things I would normally not do. I went back to my room and asked my roommate to follow me to the barber’s so she could take a video. She refused to be a part of it. I asked two other friends and they refused too.

I went to the barber’s and I took my video myself. And guess what, my face didn’t look half as bad.

I was afraid to be ugly. I wanted natural hair but I was afraid of my face.

Have you ever relaxed someone’s hair? It colors your fingers and you know it shouldn’t get into your eyes. And if you observe closely, the scalp beneath the hair is hot. I was tired of that.

Apart from proving a point to myself about my long relaxed hair not being the definition of beauty, I honestly didn’t know that there was another option from relaxing your hair. It was just normal. It’s funny: when the abnormal suddenly becomes normal and normal is sitting in a corner, moping and doping wondering what went wrong. It is a different scenario when you know there are two options and you can choose one. I didn’t know.

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I will stop here for now, but I’ve been loving my short, thick curls. I’ll be sure to keep you updated on my hair journey and all the recipes, formulas, and products I’ve been experimenting with.

By the way, I did the big chop on the 8th of August, and today is the 24th of August and people have said you don’t look like a boy anymore because I have had considerable growth. So watch this space!

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Dear Friends

It’s been  six months and a day since I posted any article here and I owe you all an apology. I am really sorry for being away for so long.

I’ve been on a bit of hiatus. Writing my final exams at the university, completing and defending my project and just when I thought that I was free from all the struggles of school and the hard work. I was assaulted by reality – You are now a graduate! You are no longer entitled to pocket money, purse money and all forms of moneys from parents, uncles and aunties. You now have the responsibility of footing your own bills and of course giving to those who are coming after you. You no longer have the excuse-”I’m a student” to save you from buying that toy house for your niece or the bicycle for your nephew.

I became really anxious, made rash decisions ( which i would tell you about later). One of which was to pursue a career in Human resource management. I sent out tons of CVs applying for Jobs and devouring every article i can find on HR. I got invited to a few interviews which I passed but denied the offer because of the pay. It’s amazing how employers look for cheap labour these days. Finally though, I landed this job which I like very much. It’s only a 15mins walk from my house, my Job Description is open ended which is both tasking and rewarding.

 

What has been the state of my hair through all this time?

Well I’m sure you can guess. I neglected my hair – I went back to my old ways of Braiding and constant protective Styling which does my hair absolutely no good.

 

The Result?

I’m ashamed to say that my hair thinned out, my hair lines receded further and my hair lost it’s tensile strength.

 

AND NOW?

I made that decision again to take care of my hair and to motivate me, I watched several videos of this vlogger who inspires me in every way – with her family, her spirituality, her personality, her consistency, her confidence and of course how she cares for her 4c hair. In my next post i’m going to upload a few links to her videos.

I have been wearing my hair natural without any protective styles for the past one month. I have nurtured it and I can say that I am proud of where I am right now with my hair. My hair lines have regrown a little bit. My hair is constantly moisturised and I can now hear clearly what it says to me about how it wants to be styled, what oil not to use on it and so on.

A couple of my friends who turned natural recently have also been a great source of motivation not to lose faith but to keep on with the good fight of caring for my kinky, tightly coiled 4c hair. One of them is Ayotola my co-author. This week, she would be posting an article on why she ‘big chopped’ and her journey so far. I would also be interviewing my other friend Yewande on same.

So please stay tuned!

Thank you all for reading please remember to leave your comments and suggestions!

 

Lots of Love

Me

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Unveiling Mayowa Fakorede

Here is an Interview between Mayowa and Kech.

I have known Mayowa for 5 years now and when I thought of starting this role model series, her name came up readily in my head. She’s disciplined, hardworking and innovative. Her Brand STREETAILOR is one to watch out for. She has inspired me in a lot of ways and I trust that you would be as inspired as I have been from what she shares with us.

 


  •       Tell us a little bit about yourself

My name is Mayowa Fakorede, recently graduated from OAU Ile-Ife, studied computer science with economics. I am Yoruba, 4th of 5 children (the only girl). I currently reside in Lagos. I love to read, love music, art and dance. I’m waiting to be deployed for the National Youth Service Corps.

 

  •      Did you have challenges as a child?

 Well…as a child I would say one of the challenges I faced was being moved around a lot. It slowed down quite a number of things especially my academics. Always had to start afresh in every new location, so the ripple effect continued until early adulthood.

 

  •   How were you able to overcome it?

I was able to overcome some of the effects simply put, by God’s grace. I’ve caught up in certain areas where time was lost. There was also the issue of not being too keen to connect with people seeing that we moved around a lot and building new relationships became a task more than something enjoyable. Serving in church helped me work on that, others are still work in progress.

 

 

   

  •      Can you tell us about what you do now?

    I run STREETAILOR house of Fashion, a fashion and apparel line. We make clothes, accessories, purses, bags and footwear with the Ankara (African prints) majorly for ladies, we also make cravats, ties, cuff links and pocket squares for men. We are currently exploring making apparels for men. STREETAILOR designs with traditional prints as well as with other prints. We equally train people who are interested in learning and at present we’re exploring the international fashion market for dealership in other countries. We hope to inspire confidence in women by paying more attention to the body type of the each of client when designing their clothes, in other to ensure that the clothes fit perfectly.

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  •    When did you start STREETAILOR and what inspired it?


I started in my 3rd year in the University. I woke up one day and began to sketch. Not long afterwards a name came to me and since then my passion for the fashion and apparel industry has continued to grow.

 

 

  

  •    What exactly can you remember as what played a major role in getting you the level of success that you have now?

   The major player that’s got me as far as I have gone today and is still at work in my life is my relationship with God. As cliché as that may sound, its very true in relation to my story. Every move I’ve made that’s led to and still scripting my success story has been a word for God or from His mouthpieces. So, I’d say sound counsel.

 

  •   What were the specific principles or lessons you applied to your life that has helped you become who you’re today?

Well, I could say some of the principles I apply would include watching the crop of company I keep; you cant rise above the level of those you surround yourself with.

Others that helped me would include the “never say die” attitude to life. Because you can’t think of a solution at the time it’s needed doesn’t mean there isn’t a solution. There’s always a way out within and/or around you.

Reading is key; you can’t perform beyond the level of knowledge you expose yourself to.

Time management! If you want people to listen to you or take your counsel or instructions, you must first listen to yourself and obey yourself. Stick to your plan as much as you can without ignoring the leading of the Holy Spirit.

Be teachable. In my opinion, its a sign of fear when you feel like there are some people you can’t learn from, fear that people can be better than you.  The truth is that people may have gifts that you don’t have, or they might be better at some things than you are, so it won’t hurt to ask questions. If you are secure in who you are, you’ll always see opportunities to amass knowledge, even if it’s what not to do.

Respect yourself! If you don’t, you shouldn’t question why others don’t too.

 

 

  •  You mentioned that you like to read. Did you have lots of books around you growing up?


Yes I read quiet a lot while growing up. My dad had a private library.

 

 

 

  • Did you have a role model?

Growing up, my role model was my mother. She could do almost anything; she loved everyone and stood out from the crowd of other women I knew.

 

  • Do you have a mentor now?

Yes, I have a mentor now. I met him while in school.

 

 

  • Do you think that you would have attained a greater level of success than you already have, if you had met him/her earlier?

Of course I believe I would have attained a greater level of success if I’d met him earlier.

 

  • What are your long-term goals?

    My long term goals include taking STREETAILOR House of Fashion to a world class level, building an orphanage and a rehabilitation center for boys and girls who haven’t the basic things of life…amongst other things.

 

  • Are you involved in any projects now?

At the moment, I am working on a rehabilitation project for street workers:  by offering them free training in dress and accessories making and also reconciling them back to God.

 

 

  •  Tell us some more about this project.

In line with Streettailor House of Fashion’s mission statement, we contribute to the rehabilitation of the society by offering free trainings to “Ladies on the street.” We employ them, and empower them to realize their gifts and dreams. We are about to commence the training of about 30 of them who have agreed to take part in our program.

 

  •  What advice do you have for younger girls who are aspiring to become like you?

   First, no one should try to become like me…(Laughing) I am not the best of me yet. I’d just say, progress and impact in this world is impossible without God, sound counsel is unparalleled. Keep the right company and be assured that everything will eventually fall into place.

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Introducing THE ROLE MODEL SERIES

Young girls around the world confront obstacles while growing up. They need female role models – who have overcome obstacles to become successful to look up to.

The women being interviewed here have had their own fair share of ups and downs but through it all, they stand tall and strong. They are well on their part to becoming all that God has predestined for them to be.

The problems confronting girls differ in different countries and places but they have surprising patterns of similarity. So, whether the situation involves poverty, drugs and alcohol, prostitution, low selfesteem, sexual harassment, illiteracy, violence or bullying, I pray that you find help and inspiration from the stories of these women. I hope you find these interviews inspiring and that they motivate you to fight and win your own battles in other to live out your dreams and full potentials.

 

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WHAT’S YOUR FRUIT? A guide to creating your personal style II

Please find the first post on the Pear and Rectangle body shapes here >>>https://unveiledbykech.wordpress.com/2014/01/25/whats-your-fruit-a-guide-to-creating-your-personal-style/

So Today we would continue with the Apple and Hour glass body shapes.

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Apple body traits:
-Most of your weight accumulates above the hips, which are narrow. Your back, ribs and shoulders are broad, and you may feel wider than other body types.
-Your best asset: Those legs!
-Your fashion goals: Elongate the torso, show off your legs and use fashion to create the illusion of a waist.

Celebrities with apple body shapes

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How to dress an Apple body shape

Here are a few styling tips for your Apple body type. The secret of dressing an Apple body shape is to create a more defined waist. You can do that by choosing clothes that add curves to your lower body and tops that accentuate your waist. You can wear different kinds of skirt lengths, but don’t go too short or you’ll be drawing attention to your midsection.

TOPS

Look for tops that create a more defined waist:

– Square, wide U or V necks;
– Tops with belts;
– Wrap style tops and jackets with tie fastenings;
– Tops with vertical details or patterns;
– Tops that flare at the hip.

BOTTOMS

Look for bottoms that will balance your upper body with your lower body, by adding a bit of volume:

– Trousers with wide or full legs;
– Pants with details like embellished and flap pockets;
– Flared or bubble skirts;
– Mid-rise waist with wide waistbands.

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Apple body traits:
-Most of your weight accumulates above the hips, which are narrow. Your back, ribs and shoulders are broad, and you may feel wider than other body types.
-Your best asset: Those legs!
Your fashion goals: Elongate the torso, show off your legs and use fashion to create the illusion of a waist.

 

Celebrities with the Hourglass shape

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How to dress an Hourglass body type

Here are a few styling tips to dress your Hourglass body type. To enhance those awesome curves, you should dress proportionally the top and bottom halves of your body, and accentuate your waist. Accessories like wide belts are great to show that waist.

TOPS
Look for tops that will accentuate your awesome waist:

– Form-fitting tops;
– Wrap-style tops;
– Tops with belts;
– Tops with banding or nipping at the waist;
– Tailored Jackets and shirts.

BOTTOMS

Look for tops that will accentuate your awesome waist:

– Boot cut and Straight leg trousers;
– High waisted pants and pencil skirts;
– Skirts that show off your awesome legs;
– Skinny jeans;
– Flap pocket jeans.

 

 

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WHATS YOUR FRUIT? A guide to creating your personal style

Post by Miss Gbosi and Kech

A lot of people have their definitions of fashion. To me, Fashion is presentation or ‘packaging’ as Nigerians like to say. It’s dressing your body in a decent way.Its ensuring that your body,God’s temple is beautifully adorned and not exposed.

There are a quite a number of  fashion rules but let’s start with dressing to suit your figure. If you know your body shape,then you will be able to find clothes that fit and flatter it.

Body shape is all about proportion, and fashion is all about dressing those proportions to look their very best.

Each of us is unique and so are our bodies. Nevertheless, our body shapes are generally narrowed down to five general categories: pear, rectangle, apple, hourglass, strawberry. You might fall into one category, or you might be a blend of two or more categories.

If you need our help to determine your body shape leave a comment below with your email address and we would get back to you.

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Once you’ve determined your body shape, you can begin to consider which fashion trends to embrace and which to avoid.

Put these fashion tips to work for you!

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Pear body traits:

-Your lower body is wider than your upper body — in other words, your hips are wider than your shoulders.

-Your bottom is rounded and your waist is well-defined.

-Your best assets: Shoulders, torso and flat stomach

-Your fashion goals: Emphasize your waist and arms, add volume to your shoulders and upper body and minimize your hips.

Celebrities with a pear body type

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How to dress a Pear Body Shape

Here are a few styling tips on how to dress a Pear body type. In order to create balance, look for clothes that add the illusion of volume to your upper half, above the waist. Look for pieces that emphasize your awesome waist and de-emphasize your hips, in order to create an hourglass appearance.

TOPS

Look for tops that will help balance your lower half while

accentuating your defined waist:

– Wide V or U necks, off the shoulder, boat-neck tops and with ruffles

– Tops with nipped or fitted waists.

– experiment with Bright colors and bold patterns.

– Structured shoulders, princess or flutter sleeves.

-wear Jackets that hit right above the waist

– Embellishments / strong details around the shoulders and bust.

BOTTOMS

Look for bottoms that will de-emphasize your hips

– Pants that fall straight from the widest part of your hip.

– Avoid details such as embellished pockets.

– Darker colors, clean lines and simple stitching.

– A-Line skirts.

– Lightly gathered skirts that skim your body without adding volume.

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Rectangle body traits:

-The waist, hip and shoulder widths are similar, your waist is not very defined Slender rectangles have an athletic look about them.

-Your best assets: Your arms and legs — and you don’t have to minimize any body features.

-Your fashion goals: Create curves and show off slender legs and arms.

-You tend to gain weight first in your upper thighs, arms and torso.

celebrities with a Straight body type:

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How to dress a Straight or Rectangle body type

Here are a few styling tips on how to dress a Straight or Rectangle body shape. The secret of dressing a straight body type is to dress your top and bottom proportionally, enhancing your waist. You can wear well fit clothes (eg. a tube type dress) and by adding a wide belt, you can create a waist. To create more curves, add the illusion of volume proportionally in your lower and upper body, with separates.

TOPS

To create a more defined waist, look for tops that will add curves to your upper half:

– Tops with belts;

– Wide V, U necks or off the shoulder tops;

– Structured shoulders or flutter sleeves;

– Tops flowing around the bust also wear tops with layers to add dimension

– Embellishments around the shoulders and bust.

BOTTOMS

Look for bottoms that will add curves to your lower half, creating an hourglass figure:

– Pants, skirts and shorts with details, like embellished or flap pockets;

– Pants with moderate or full flared legs;

– Full, tiered or bubble skirts;

– Mid or low-rise waists and wide waistbands

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Apple, strawberry and hourglass body shapes coming soon. Please click on the link to your top right and subscribe to receive our posts on your inbox.

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